Category Archives: Know Yourself

Healing from Betrayal with Debi Silber

In episode 76 of Fresh Tracks I speak with transformational psychologist and author Deb Silber about betrayal. When we are betrayed it hits us at a very deep, core part of ourselves and shatters our trust. When experiencing a betrayal, either in your personal or professional life, it’s imperative to process and heal rather than push down the emotions and forge on. Debi shares with us the five stages of healing from betrayal as well as the value of discovering the lessons that are there to be learned when you are betrayed. Both are instrumental in growing through this experience rather than having it ruin you.

A betrayal hurts so much because it is intentional. We are forced to face the fact that someone close to us put their needs above ours. Initially, survival instincts and strategies take over and we function on autopilot. In this week’s Fresh Tracks we examine why many people get stuck in survival mode rather than heal and move into the growth phases we are designed to experience. Making meaning of the experience allows you to heal, learn the lesson you are charged with learning, and become the stronger and more resilient person you are meant to be.

Show Notes:

4:15 – Recognizing post-traumatic betrayal
6:45 – Taking yourself from betrayal to transformation
10:00 – Why do betrayals keeps happening?
12:45 – How betrayal often drive us towards spiritual exploration
14:45 – Why we frequently don’t heal from betrayal
18:15 – The place most women get stuck when healing from betrayal
23:15 – How to recognize if you have post-betrayal symptoms
26:45 – Are there things you can do to prevent betrayal?

About Debi

Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT Institute, is a Transformational Psychologist and a health, mindset, and personal development expert. She’s an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life CrisisThe Unshakable Woman.  Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington PostShapeSelfHealthWorking MotherForbesPsychology Today, WebMD, Ladies Home JournalWoman’s World and Glamour, amongst others. Her doctoral study led to two discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal. Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, she’s created a proven approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from a life crisis, specializing in betrayal.

https://pbtinstitute.com/

Mindfulness and the Key to Believing in Yourself

In episode 72 of Fresh Tracks I speak with mindfulness expert John Allcock. We dig deep into the role mindfulness plays in setting and achieving goals, our belief in ourselves, and how we handle failure. John shares that being mindful (aware) allows us to recognize if our thoughts are unrealistically negative – which impacts our belief in our self. Once we are aware we can then make the decision to check the thoughts out and see if they are correct and, if not, replace them with more accurate, positive beliefs and intentions. Which ultimately allow us to live a happier, fuller, and more meaningful life.

Sounds great, but how do you do this you may ask? John shares techniques to train your attention so you don’t get wrapped up in distorted thinking that’s not realistic. Awareness gives us the power to realize we are choosing to listen to negative thoughts and the choice to choose positive thoughts. In this week’s show we also take a look at how we handle failure. Because if you look at failure as something to avoid you won’t set lofty goals or cut Fresh Tracks. In reality failure just means that you are trying new things. John shares that mindfulness training is the solution to all of these difficult issues. Check out this week’s show and decide for yourself.

Show Notes:

4:00 – Why believing in yourself impacts the quality of the goals you set
5:50 – Tips for working your way through failure when you are in the midst of it
8:20 – The secret key to training your attention
12:00 – The art of being skilled in awareness
15:10 – An insight into how kids handle paying attention to their awareness
19:00 – You can try to pave every path or you can make some shoes….
22:00 – The one thing you can do to avoid anxiety
23:50 – What if much of what you believe is wrong?
26:20 – How to start assessing what your beliefs are – particularly if you are unhappy

About the Author:
John Allcock has dedicated over 15 years to the practice and instruction of mindfulness. He is the Co-Founder and Director of Mindfulness at Sea Change Preparatory, a trailblazing academy that regularly implements the practice of mindfulness in it’s curriculum. The school’s emphasis on mindfulness set the foundation for the success of it’s students, including world-record-breaking swimmers, which were featured on NBC Nightly News. John is also a Harvard-educated trial lawyer and has been the Global Co-Chair of DLA Piper’s Intellectual Property Group. He lives in Del Mar, California with his wife and co-founder Cheryl. Together they have four children.
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The Fear and Anxiety Solution: A Breakthrough Process for Healing and Empowerment with Your Subconscious Mind

The Fear and Anxiety Solution

In episode 66 of Fresh Tracks I speak with Dr. Friedemann Schaub about strategies for overcoming fear and anxiety. His discoveries about fear and anxiety as a medical doctor, and his realization of the mind, body spirit connection, led him to the ground-breaking teachings he shares with us today. In this weeks show we discuss what can we learn from our fear and anxiety patterns and how that may impact our ability to cut Fresh Tracks. Dr. Schaub teaches us how to understand, direct and utilize the subconscious mind to create wholeness and health and work through our fear and anxiety rather than allowing it to run our lives.

Dr. Schaub helps us understand the root causes and deeper meanings of our fear and anxiety. Understanding this allows us to release the emotional blocks from our past, be our true selves, and ultimately more easily cut Fresh Tracks in our lives. Tips for giving our fear and anxiety a name and recognizing where it comes from can help us break up unsupportive patterns in our life. Dr. Schaub also shares that addressing fear and anxiety at its roots has a huge benefit because it allows you to more deeply tap into your true self and realize your true potential.

Show Notes:
3:00 – Friedemann’s journey from molecular biologist and MD to studying the subconscious mind
6:45 – Why fear and anxiety are our friend and how to view them as positive
9:00 – Using fear and anxiety to understand yourself
11:00 – Tips for understanding where your anxiety is coming from
13:50 – 3 steps to upgrading your subconscious operating system
17:10 – Resolving the inner conflict within
24:30 – Why we don’t need to override our anxiety every time
27:10 – Creating your Fresh Tracks as a gentle step rather than a giant leap
29:00 – Feeling alive vs numb

About Dr. Friedemann Schaub

Friedemann Schaub MD, PhD received his medical degree from the University of Munich and pursued a career in cardiology at the Munich University Hospital before moving to Seattle where he received a doctorate in molecular-biology from the University of Washington. His research has been published and featured in national and international medical and science journals.

During more than twenty-years in the medical field, Dr. Schaub became increasingly fascinated by the powerful influence of our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs on health and disease. He recognized that our abundant self-healing abilities can only function effectively when mind, body, and spirit are in alignment, and that the mind-body-spirit connection – in particular the subconscious mind – holds the keys to accelerated healing, well-being, and success.

Based on this wealth of knowledge and experience, Dr. Schaub created a personal breakthrough and empowerment program specifically designed to eliminate emotional and mental blocks and limitations that prevent us from fully activating our potential to heal, change and succeed. He has helped thousands of people all over the world overcome fear and anxiety to lead confident, authentic and successful lives. Dr. Friedemann Schaub is the author of the award-winning book “The Fear and Anxiety Solution.”

Website: http://thefearandanxietysolution.com

 

The Enneagram as a tool for Getting to Know Yourself

In episode 64 of Fresh Tracks I speak with Beatrice Chestnut of The Chestnut Group about the Enneagram. The Enneagram is an ancient tool that shows where your focus of attention goes. When used correctly, the Enneagram can be used to get to know yourself, allowing you to create Fresh Tracks from a place of strength. Beatrice shares that understanding the habitual patterns of your personality and where your attention goes can be essential to your personal growth and development. Your focus of attention is often a coping strategy and understanding where it goes, as well as what you avoid focusing on, will help you become a better leader of yourself.

Getting to know aspects of yourself that you can’t see is important to understanding where you are now in life. Can you identify what have you been doing that works and what have you been doing that isn’t working? The Enneagram helps in identifying what motivates you and highlights your blind spots. It can also assist in identifying tools you might add to your toolkit to more easily accomplish your goals.

Show Notes:

3:40 – What is the Enneagram and why is it a powerful tool?
7:30 – How to use the Enneagram to understand what gets between you and a better life.
10:20 –Identify unsupportive patterns so you can determine what strategies to add to your toolkit to grow.
16:30 – Understand the role emotional intelligence plays in achieving success (EQ).
22:00 – Examples of how the Enneagram can help you work through obstacles.
27:00 – What it means to be a leader and how we get stuck in unsupportive habits because we don’t recognize what’s blocking us.

Beatrice Chestnut, PhD MA is a licensed psychotherapist, coach, and business consultant based in San Francisco. She has a PhD in communication studies and an MA in clinical psychology and is founder of The Chestnut Group, which offers coaching, leadership development training, and team development services to empower change through the use of the Enneagram. A student of the Enneagram system since 1990, she is author of the books, The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge, and The 9 Types of Leadership: Mastering the Art of People in the 21st century Workplace. She was President of the International Enneagram Association (IEA) from 2006-2007 and offers trainings on the Enneagram internationally, focusing on using it as a tool for personal transformation.

Web site: www.beatricechestnut.com